Magna Carta Country Winemakers, Wraysbury, Berkshire
My first booking last September was another short-notice talk in the Staines area, this time for?the?Magna Carta Country Winemakers?at the?Wraysbury Village Halls. It's one of the oldest wine circles anywhere and certainly the best-attended that I have ever been to - there were around 110 there that night to hear me speak on?My Life as a Freelance Comedy Writer.
Maureen Rolfe was wonderfully hospitable, providing me with lovely sandwiches to have while the group was busy with its business meeting. And when there were problems as I tried out the tape player that had been supplied she even drove off to get another - which worked perfectly.Then it was time for my talk - and what a great gig! Even a good-natured heckle from a gentlemen after one of my observations came just at a point of the talk where I knew the next bit would follow on as a nice riposte to what he had just said!
The only minor problem was that the venue is very close to Heathrow so I occasionally had to stop speaking due to the noise of an aircraft (I certainly wasn't going to try and shout above it!) but these pauses were very few and very brief and the club members are obviously used to this.
Public Speaking Tip #443:?Some venues experience drawbacks which affect every speaker and the audience understands this so there is no need to draw attention to obvious interruptions such as aircraft noise - just wait for a few seconds and then carry on as normal.
Public Speaking Tip #444:?There are some noisy interruptions that a speaker cannot compete with - even with a microphone. Bellowing into it will only cause even more noise and no-one will be concentrating on what you're saying anyway - just on what you're trying (and failing) to do!
It was a really enjoyable evening. My thanks for the lift from the station and also to Maureen for this lovely testimonial:
"Hi Nick, Thank you so much for coming to speak to our members on Tuesday evening. I really appreciate your coming at short notice especially as you had such a long journey to get here.
The members were absolutely delighted with your talk, which was brilliant, and I have been asked by so many to book you again for next year. I do hope that this will be convenient to you, as you were so popular when you visited the MCCW last week".
I was very quickly rebooked for May 2012.
Poole Royal Air Force Association, Dorset
My next booking was a return visit to the Poole RAFA, exactly a year after?the last, this time to speak about Patrick Campbell. On arriving at the Poole Ex-Servicemen's Club I made the disastrous discovery that I had forgotten my glasses. Now there are some talks where this would not have been a problem but not this one ?- I do rely on some written material and I didn't want to attempt to do the whole talk by heart. There was no time to go back home so I told the organisers and then found myself being offered a wide selection of their own specs to try! (It was a bit like being in a high street optician's only with better service: see?this blog post).
I found a pair that fitted and the talk went ahead with no further problems.
Public Speaking Tip #445:?If you arrive at a speaking engagement and experience a problem which will affect your talk then tell the organisers. They want the event to be a success and will try and find a solution.
I really must thank the gentleman who loaned me his glasses. It probably meant he couldn't see me during the talk but that may not have been much of a loss!
A luncheon in West Sussex
Two days later I set off early for Victoria and then headed out from there to West Sussex for the first of two bookings for ladies' groups that day. The first was to speak on My Life as a Freelance Comedy Writer after a lunch. I had spoken to this group before a few years earlier but at a different venue.
I arrived in good time and we started the meal. Unfortunately the lady in charge of the venue's catering received some very upsetting news about the health of a relative and had to leave. It was one of those events that are beyond anyone's control but it had the effect of slowing service right down. This meant that I didn't get to speak until nearly 3pm which really is too late after a lunch - especially on a boiling hot day.
Public Speaking Tip #446:?If you are speaking after a lunch, you are really going to struggle if you are put on too long after, say 2.30pm. With after dinner speeches, the same usually applies ?going on after about 10pm.
Once again I found myself having to tread a path between editing and giving an audience their money's worth. I got laughs but the response was, by my standards, lukewarm. A great pity, as they are a very nice group and this was a special meeting in their calendar.
Public Speaking Tip #447:?Just occasionally events beyond a speaker's (or anyone else's) control will prevent an engagement from being all it could be.
National Association of Women's Clubs, Ash Club, Surrey
Feeling a bit tired and disappointed I then travelled to Ashford in Surrey, where I had?spoken to the U3A?back in June, this time to deliver an evening talk on My Life as a Freelance Comedy Writer for the?Ash Club, part of the?National Association of Women's Clubs, who meet in the?Fordbridge Day Centre.
This is a very friendly, welcoming group, with around 50 attending. Any fatigue very quickly lifted when I started my talk - they were a fantastic audience and an hour flew by. They then very kindly arranged a lift back to the station?
Public Speaking Tip #448:?If you have more than one engagement in a day and the first one doesn't go according to plan then this should have no bearing on the second. Move on!
Weymouth & Portland U3A, Dorset
The week finished with a morning talk?for?Weymouth and Portland U3A?in the town's Salvation Army Citadel.
There were well over 100 present and My Life as a Freelance Comedy Writer went down a storm and soon led to 3 further bookings in the town on recommendations. (Prior to this, apart from an audition in 2005, where the audience came from all over Dorset, I had not spoken in Weymouth since 2000; it's just the way the bookings fall sometimes!)
I couldn't sell?Nick R's in a Twist!?due to the Sally Army's no-merchandising rules, which I have mentioned before, but there was such a demand for my free Twelve Tips for Terrified Speakers leaflet that I ran out of copies. For anyone who didn't get one that morning you can read the Twelve Tips?here.
A really enjoyable talk. Afterwards, I visited a very good secondhand bookshop near the venue (described here by another blogger), where I picked up a volume that might inspire a new talk for me to offer...
David Hawkes R.I.P.
David Hawkes MBE JP was a retired diplomat who was a much in-demand speaker in my area, delivering up to 200 talks per year. Sadly he passed away in September 2011 and, as with Mr Tom Hall from the Southbourne Literary Society, I didn't find out until some time afterwards.
What I remember most about him is the generosity he showed to other speakers. His leaflet was a sheet of A4 folded into 6 pages. On the front was a cartoon of a figure in a dinner jacket then the next pages listed his talks: 'A Diplomat's Lot', 'The History of Arab Costume', 'Florence Nightingale and the Crimean War', 'The Turin Shroud' and numerous other presentations, quizzes and monologues. And then at the back he listed various other speakers in the Bournemouth area and our contact details (Mr Eric Watson?also does this). I was getting bookings from this source years before I ever met David.
In April 2004 he booked me as the guest speaker at the annual dinner of the East Dorset Speakers Club, part of the?Association of Speakers Clubs. A few weeks later I was due to speak at a ladies' group where they had inadvertently booked two speakers (it occasionally happens!) I discovered that David had turned up first but, on learning of their error, had graciously told them to give the booking to me and then left.
I read that his funeral service was followed by a reception at the?Miramar Hotel?and I can think of no more appropriate venue for a Bournemouth speaker's memorial. A very large number of clubs and societies have held meetings there over the years. I have certainly spoken there many times so I cannot begin to imagine how many times he did.
RIP Mr Hawkes and thank you, not just for the extra work but also for an inspiring example of just how many talks a speaker can complete in a year.
Rhinefield Probus, Hampshire
My last booking for September was a third visit to?Rhinefield Probus Club?at the?Forest Park Hotel?in Brockenhurst, this time to speak on the Power of Humour in Everyday Life. I have always enjoyed speaking to this club and it was a great morning. I included some topical humour which included gags from that day's news and these went well. Also gratifying was a question-and-answer session afterwards which lasted some 20 minutes.
Public Speaking Tip #449:?When you get on a roll with a question-and-answer session it can just build and build (if time permits). Be prepared for this as it's usually the sign of a very successful talk and, when audience members look back, it will be seen very much as part?of?it.
A non-existent booking
I did have a seventh booking in the diary for September 2011 but that engagement turned out not to exist and the story behind it is very sad. A few hours after a talk earlier in the year I had taken a call from a gentleman who had enjoyed hearing me that day and wanted to book me for a supper at his church.?
As the date approached I had heard nothing from him and was puzzled when I looked at the church's website and noticed that there was no mention of the event and that their only meeting was on a different date from that arranged.
In the end I managed to speak to the gentleman's wife who told me that her husband had been in hospital since a couple of weeks after he phoned me. She knew nothing about the supper.
When I finally spoke to someone from the church I was told that the man had dementia and that his wife was also a sufferer, although to a lesser extent. There was never a supper and he had actually tried to book a number of entertainers for various other functions and most had been contacted but I seemed to have slipped through the net.?
As I have said, it's all very sad.?There had been nothing in his phone call that had rung any alarm bells with me.?In view of how many talks I have delivered for senior audiences over the past 16 years it is perhaps surprising that it has never happened before.
There was never any chance that I would actually have made the 90-minute journey to that town without confirmation and when no-one had contacted me I started making my own calls, just as I did with?another non-existent booking?(for different reasons) four years earlier.
I first became worried when I looked at the church's website and saw there was nothing mentioned about the booking but it's always a good idea to look at website mentions of engagements that?doactually exist. You get to see how you're being advertised (which gives you some idea of areas to stress in your content), there may be some information about the event itself and there may be some mention of who else is attending. It's all useful stuff.
Public Speaking Tip #450:?Checking how an event where you are due to speak is advertised on a website can provide some useful background information to help you prepare for it.
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Source: http://www.nickrthomas.co.uk/journal/2012/8/7/my-public-speaking-year-2011-september-6-talks-winemakers-wo.html
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